Julius Kambarage Nyerere was one of Africa’s leading independence heroes (and a leading light behind the creation of the Organization of African Unity), the architect of ujamaa (an African socialist philosophy which revolutionized Tanzania’s agricultural system), the prime minister of an independent Tanganyika, and the first president of Tanzania.
Date of Birth: March 1922, Butiama, Tanganyika
Date of death: 14 October 1999, London, UK
Kambarage (“the spirit which gives rain”) Nyerere was born to Chief Burito Nyerere of the Zanaki (a small ethnic group in northern Tanganyika) and and his fifth (out of 22) wife Mgaya Wanyang’ombe. Nyerere attended a local primary mission school, transferring in 1937 to Tabora Secondary School, a Roman Catholic mission and one of the few secondary schools open to Africans at that time. He was baptized a catholic on 23 December 1943, and took the baptismal name Julius.
Between 1943 and 1945 Nyererre attended Makerere University, in Uganda’s capital Kampala, obtaining a teaching certificate. It was around this time that he took his first steps towards a political career — in 1945 he formed Tanganyika’s first student group, an offshoot of the African Association, AA, (a pan-African group first formed by Tanganyika’s educated elite in Dar es Salaam, in 1929). Nyerere and his colleagues began the process of converting the AA towards a nationalistic political group.
Once he had gained his teaching certificate, Nyerere returned to Tanganyika to take up a teaching post at Saint Mary’s, a Catholic mission school in Tabora. He opened a local branch of the AA, and was instrumental in converting the AA from its pan-African idealism to the pursuit of Tanganyikan independence. To this end, the AA restyled itself in 1948 as the Tanganyika African Association, TAA.
Gaining a Wider Perspective
In 1949 Nyerere left Tanganyika to study for an MA in economics and history at the University of Edinburgh. He was the first African from Tanganyika to study at a British university and, in 1952, was the first Tanganyikan to gain a degree. At Edinburgh Nyerere became involved with the Fabian Colonial Bureau (a non-Marxist, anti-colonial socialist movement based in London). He watched intently Ghana’s path to self-government, and was aware of the debates in Britain on the development of a Central African Federation (to be formed from a union of North and South Rhodesia and Nyasaland). Three years of study in the UK gave Nyerere an opportunity to vastly widen his perspective of pan-African issues. Graduating in 1952, he returned to teach at a Catholic school near Dar es Salaam. On 24 January he married primary school teacher Maria Gabriel Majige.
Developing the Independence Struggle in Tanganyika
This was a period of upheaval in west and south Africa — in neighboring Kenya the Mau Mau uprising was fighting against white settler rule, and nationalistic reaction was rising against the creation of the Central African Federation. But political awareness in Tanganyika was nowhere near as advanced as with its neighbors. Nyerere, who had become president of the TAA in April 1953, realized that a focus for African nationalism amongst the population was needed. To that end, in July 1954, Nyerere converted the TAA into Tanganyika’s first political party — the Tanganyikan African National Union, or TANU.
Nyerere was careful to promote nationalistic ideals without encouraging the kind of violence that was erupting in Kenya under the Mau Mau uprising. TANU manifesto was for independence on the basis of non-violent, multi-ethnic politics, and the promotion of social and political harmony. Nyerere was appointed to Tanganyika’s Legislative Council (the Legco) in 1954. He gave up teaching the following year to pursue his career in politics.
Nyerere testified on behalf of TANU to the UN Trusteeship Council (committee on trusts and non-self-governing territories), in both 1955 and 1956. He presented the case for setting a timetable for Tanganyikan independence (this being one of the specified aims set down for a UN trust territory). The publicity he gained back in Tanganyika established him as the country’s leading nationalist. In 1957 he resigned from the Tanganyikan Legislative Council in protest over the slow progress independence.
TANU contested the 1958 elections, winning 28 of 30 elected positions in the Legco. This was countered, however, by 34 posts which were appointed by the British authorities — there was no way for TANU to gain a majority. But TANU was making headway, and Nyerere told his people that “Independence will follow as surely as the tickbirds follow the rhino.” Finally with the election in August 1960, after changes to the Legislative Assembly were passed, TANU gained the majority it sought — 70 out of 71 seats. Nyerere became chief minister on 2 September 1960 and Tanganyika gained limited self-government.
In May 1961 Nyerere became prime minister, and on 9 December Tanganyika gained its independence. On 22 January 1962, Nyerere resigned from the premiership to concentrate on drawing up a republican constitution and to prepare TANU for government rather than liberation. On 9 December 1962 Nyerere was elected president of the new Republic of Tanganyika.
Nyerere’s Approach to Government #1
Nyerere approached his presidency with a particularly African stance. First he attempted to integrate into African politics the traditional style of African decision making (what is known as “indaba in Southern Africa). Consensus is gained through a series of meetings in which everyone has an opportunity to say their piece. To help build national unity he adopted Kiswahili as the national language, making it the only medium of instruction and education. Tanganyika became on of the few African countries with an indigenous official national language. Nyerere also expressed a fear that multiple parties, as seen in Europe and the US, would lead to ethnic conflict in Tanganyika.
In 1963 tensions on the neighboring island of Zanzibar started to impact on Tanganyika. Zanzibar had been a British protectorate, but on 10 December 1963, independence was gained as a Sultinate (under Jamshid ibn Abd Allah) within the Commonwealth of Nations. A coup on 12 January 1964 overthrew the sultanate and established a new republic. Africans and Arabs were in conflict, and the aggression spread to the mainland — the Tanganyikan army mutinied.
Nyerere went into hiding and was forced to ask Britain for military assistance. He set about strengthening his political control of both TANU and the country — in 1963 he established a one-party state (which lasted until 1 July 1992), outlawed strikes and created a centralized administration. A one-party state would allow collaboration and unity without any suppression of opposing views he stated. TANU was now the only legal political party in Tanganyika. Once order was restored Nyerere announced the merger of Zanzibar with Tanganyika as a new nation; the United Republic of Tanganyika and Zanzibar came into being on 26 April 1964 with Nyerere as president. The country was renamed the Republic of Tanzania on 29 October 1964.
Nyerere’s Approach to Government #2
Nyerere was reelected president of Tanzania in 1965 (and would be returned for another three successive five year terms before resigning as president in 1985). His next step was to promote his system of African socialism, and on 5 February 1967 he presented the Arusha Declaration which set out his political and economic agenda. The Arusha Declaration was incorporated in to TANU’s constitution later that year.
The central core of the Arusha Declaration was ujamma, Nyerere’s take on an egalitarian socialist society based on cooperative agriculture. (The policy was influential throughout the continent, but it ultimately proved to be flawed.) Ujamaa is a Swahili word which means community or familyhood. Nyerere’s ujamaa was a program of independent self-help which supposedly would keep Tanzania from becoming dependant on foreign aid. It emphasized economic cooperation, racial/tribal, and moralistic self-sacrifice.
By the early 1970s a program of villagization was slowly organizing rural life into village collectives. Initially voluntary, the process met with increasing resistance, and in 1975 Nyerere introduced forced villagization. Almost 80% of the population ended up organized into 7,700 villages. Ujamaa emphasized the country’s need to be self-sufficient economically rather than being dependent on foreign aid and foreign investment. Nyerere also set up mass literacy campaigns, and provided free and universal education. In 1971, he introduced state ownership for banks, nationalized plantations and property. In January 1977 he merged TANU and Zanzibar’s Afro-Shirazi Party into a new national party – the Chama Cha Mapinduzi (CCM, Revolutionary State Party).
Despite a great deal of planning and organization, agricultural production declined over the 70s, and by the 1980s, with falling world commodity prices (especially for coffee and sisal), its meager export base disappeared and Tanzania became the largest per-capita recipient of foreign aid in Africa.
Nyerere on the International Stage
Nyerere was a leading force behind the modern Pan-African movement, a leading figure in African politics in the 1970s, and was one of the founders of the Organization of African Unity, OAU, (now the African Union). He was committed to supporting liberation movements in Southern Africa and was a forceful critic of the Apartheid regime of South Africa (chairing a group of five frontline presidents who advocated the overthrow of white supremacists in South Africa, South West Africa, and Zimbabwe). Tanzania became a favored venue for liberation army training camps and political offices. Sanctuary was given to members of South Africa’s African National Congress, as well as similar groups from Zimbabwe, Mozambique, Angola and Uganda. As a strong supporter of the Commonwealth of Nations, Nyerere helped engineer South Africa’s exclusion on the basis of its Apartheid policies.
When President Idi Amin of Uganda announced the deportation of all Asians, Nyerere denounced his administration. When Ugandan troops occupied a small border area of Tanzania in 1978 Nyerere pledged to bring the downfall of Amin. In 1979 20,000 troops from the Tanzanian army invaded Uganda to aid Ugandan rebels under the leadership of Yoweri Museveni. Amin fled into exile, and Milton Obote, a good friend of Nyerere, and the president Idi Amin had deposed back in 1971, was placed back in power. The economic cost to Tanzania of the incursion into Uganda was devastating, and Tanzania was unable to recover.
The End of an Influential Presidency
In 1985 Nyerere stepped down from the presidency, in favor of Ali Hassan Mwinyi. But he refused to give up power completely, remaining leader of the CCM. When Mwinyi started to dismantle ujamaa, and to privatize the economy, Nyerere ran interference. He spoke out against what he saw as too much reliance on international trade and the use of gross domestic product as the main measure of Tanzania’s success.
At the time of his departure, Tanzania was one of the world’s poorest countries. Agriculture has reduced to subsistence levels, transportation networks were fractured, and industry was crippled. At least one third of the national budget was provided by foreign aid. On the positive side, Tanzania had Africa’s highest literacy rate (90%), had halved infant mortality, and was politically stable.
In 1990 Nyerere gave up leadership of the CCM, finally admitting that some of his policies hadn’t been successful. Tanzania held multiparty elections for the first time in 1995.
Julius Kambarage Nyerere died on 14 October 1999 in London, UK, of leukaemia. Despite his failed policies, Nyerere remains a deeply respect figure both in Tanzania and Africa as a whole. He is referred to by his honorific title mwalimu (a Swahili word meaning teacher).
|800s||Kilwa is established as a trading settlement by Arabs, whilst Persian traders settle at Pemba and on Zanzibar.|
|1200||The distinctive mix of Arabs, Persians and Africans develops into the Swahili culture.|
|1498||Vasco da Gama, Portuguese explorer, sails up Tanzanian coast.|
|1500-09||Swahili ports along the Tanzanian coast are seized by Portuguese.|
|1699||Zanzibar is commandeered by Omanis who make it the centre of their maritime empire, eventually to become its capital.|
|1858||Richard Burton and John Hanning Speke arrive at Lake Tanganika and Lake Victoria.|
|1867||British campaign against Zanzibar slave trade starts.|
|1873||The Sultan of Zanzibar is forced to close his slave market by the British.|
|1884||The Gesellschaft für Deutsche Kolonisation (Society for German Colonisation), co-founded by Carl Peters, begins exploring the mainland.|
|1885||With the conclusion of the Berlin West African Conference a German protectorate is created in East Africa under the control of the Deutsch Osta-Afrikanischen Gesellschaft (German East-African Society) .|
|1890||Britain takes over Zanzibar as a protectorate.|
|1891||Deutsch-Ostafrika (German East Africa) colony is created.|
|1905-07||Maji Maji Rebellion put down by German troops.|
|1914||General Paul Emil von Lettow-Vorbeck, the commander of German forces in East Africa, begins a guerrilla style war against the British and her Allies.|
|1916||Majority of German East Africa is occupied by British and South African troops.|
|1919||Following the defeat of German in the Great War, Tanganyika is given by the League of Nations as a mandate to the British.|
|1929||Formation of the Tanganyika African Association (TAA) .|
|1946||British mandate over Tanganyika is converted into a trusteeship by the United Nations.|
|1954||Julius Kambarage Nyerere and Oscar Kambona create the Tanganyika African National Union (TANU) out of the remnants of the TAA.|
|1958||Tanganyika is given internal self-government by the British.|
|1961||Tanganyika achieves independence (9 December) .|
|1962||Julius Kambarage Nyerere is first president of the newly formed Republic of Tanganyika (9 December), having previously served as Prime Minister under the British Governor-General Richard Gordon Turnbull. Nyerere introduces his own form of African socialism.|
|1963||Zanzibar achieves independence (10 December) .|
|1964||In a violent revolution, left-wing forces overthrow the Sultanate of Zanzibar and the People’s Republic of Zanzibar is proclaimed (12 January). Shortly after Tanganyika and Zanzibar are merged together as the United Republic of Tanganyika and Zanzibar (26 April) with Nyerere as president (and Abeid Amani Rashid Karume as president of Zanzibar). The United Republic of Tanzania was proclaimed on 29 Oct.|
|1967||Arusha Declaration – President Nyerere outlines his own version of socialism, Ujamaa. Nyerere’s vision called for socialism, self-reliance and a belief in human equality (5 February) .|
|1975||The Tanzania-Zambia railroad (known as the Tan-Zam) is completed.|
|1977||Merger of Tanzania African National Union (TANU) and Zanzibar’s Afro-Shirazi Party (ASP) to create the Chama Cha Mapinduzi (CCM – Revolutionary State Party). The CCM is declared to be the only legal political party in Tanzania.|
|1978||With the assistance of Libyan troops, Idi Amin attempts to annex Kagera, Tanzania’s northern province.|
|1979||Tanzanian forces invade Uganda and capture the capital Kampala. The president of Uganda, Idi Amin, flees to Libya.|
|1985||President Ali Hassan Mwinyi comes into power, Mwinyi had been president of Zanzibar (5 November). Nyerere’s socialist experiment is eased.|
|1992||Tanzania’s constitution is amended to allow multi-party democracy.|
|1994||Tanzania accepts 800,000 refugees form ethnic violence in Rwanda and Burundi.|
|1995||Benjamin William Mkapa of the CCM becomes president after first multi-party elections (23 November).|
|1998||US embassy buildings in Dar es Salaam are destroyed by a terrorist blast.|
|1999||Julius Kambarage Nyerere dies (14 October) .|
|2001||Offices of opposition party, Civic United Front (CUF), in Zanzibar are raided: two people are killed. Period of violence follows the government’s ban on opposition rallies. The CCM and CUF finally reach agreement and normality is restored. Tanzania rekindles the East African Community with Kenya and Uganda. Presidents of all three countries launch a regional parliament and court of justice to act on common matters.|
|2005||Jakaya Mrisho Kikwete of the CCM becomes president (21 December).|
|2006||African Development Bank cancels more than $640 million of debt.|
Ujamaa, the Swahili for ‘familyhood’. was the social and economic policy developed by Julius Kambarage Nyerere, president of Tanzania from 1964 to 1985. Centered on collective agriculture, under a process called villagization, ujamaa also called for nationalization of banks and industry, and an increased level of self-reliance at both an individual and a national level.
Nyerere set out his policy in the Arusha Declaration of 5 February 1967. The process started slowly and was voluntary, by the end of the 60s there were only 800 or so collective settlements. In the 70s, Nyerere’s reign became more oppressive, and the move to collective settlements, or villages, was enforced. By the end of the 70s there were over 2,500 of these ‘villages’.
The idea for collective agriculture was sound — it was possible to provide equipment, facilities, and material for a rural population if they were brought together in ‘nucleated’ settlements, each of around 250 families. It made the distribution of fertilizer and seed easier, and it was possible to provide a good level of education to the population. Villagization also overcame the problems of ‘tribalization’ which beset other newly independent African countries.
Nyerere’s socialist outlook required Tanzania’s leaders to reject capitalism and all its trimmings, showing restraint over salary and perks. But it was rejected by a significant fraction of the population. When the main foundation of ujamaa, villagization, failed — productivity was supposed to be increased through collectivization, instead it fell to less than 50% of what was achieved on independent farms — towards the end of Nyerere’s rule, Tanzania had become one of Africa’s poorest countries, dependent on international aid.
Ujamaa was brought to an end in 1985 when Nyerere stepped down from the presidency in favor of Ali Hassan Mwinyi.
Pros of Ujamaa
- Created high literacy rate
- Halved infant mortality through access to medical facilities and education
- Untied Tanzanians across ethnic lines
- Left Tanzania untouched by the ‘tribal’ and political tensions which affected the rest of Africa
Cons of Ujamaa
- Transportation networks declined drastically through neglect
- Industry and banking was crippled
- Left the country dependent on international aid
Lakini kwa kufupisha mlolongo wa mambo sehemu kuu tatu zinaweza kabisa kukidhi mchanganuo mzima wa jinsi tatizo hili linavyowasumbua wanaume wengi duniani.
Sehemu kubwa ya malalamiko ya wanaume katika sakata hili yanagusa zaidi maeneo matatu ambayo ni KUKOSA MSISIMKO, KUSHINDWA KURUDIA TENDO NA KUKOSA KABISA NGUVU, huku kufika kileleni mapema kukihusishwa pia kama pacha wa janga hili ambalo linawasumbua zaidi wanaume, ingawa na wanawake wanakabiliwa na sehemu ndogo ya tatizo hili.
Hata hivyo uchunguzi wa hivi karibuni uliowahusisha wanaume wanaofika kliniki au kupata tiba za tatizo la upungufu wa nguvu za kiume umeonesha kuwa, sio wanaume wengi wenye sababu za kibaiolojia zinazowafanya wakose nguvu za kiume, isipokuwa wengi wao huwa na matatizo ya kisaikolojia zaidi ambayo wahusika wanaweza kujiponya nayo bila hata kutumia vidonge wala dawa za miti shamba.
Ingawa Matabibu wanataja magonjwa ya moyo, kisukari, shinikizo la damu, magonjwa ya zinaa, unene wa kupita kiasi, umri mkubwa kuwa ndiyo chanzo cha wanaume kupungukiwa na nguvu za kiume, lakini imebainika kuwa idadi kubwa ya wanaume wanaofika hospitalini kutafuta nguvu za kiume hawana magonjwa hayo
Huu ni ushahidi kuwa wanaokabiliwa na janga hili wamebeba tatizo la upungufu wa nguvu za kiume kimawazo zaidi kuliko hali halisi.
Ukweli wa mambo ulioibuliwa na wanasaikolojia umebaini kuwa, wale wote wanaolalamikia/lalamikiwa kuwa hawana nguvu iwe ya kufika kileleni mapema, kutokuwa na msisimko na kushindwa kurudia tendo wamekosa maarifa tu ya kufahamu na hawaijui miili yao na kwamba wanaishi kwa kusikia zaidi ya kujitambua.
Katika hali ya kawaida kila mwanadamu ameumbwa kwa njinsi yake na inapotokea kushabihiana basi ni bahati, lakini mara nyingi usawa hupatikana kwa mmoja kujifunza au kusaidiwa kufikia kiwango cha mtu anayemuhitaji kuwa nae katika maisha hasa ya kimapenzi. Jambo hili wataalamu wanasema kuwa miili iko tayari kutii mafunzo na kubadilisha tabia zake kulingana na utashi wa mhusika.
Tatizo kubwa lililopo kwa wapenzi wengi wanaolalamikia upungufu wa nguvu ni kwamba maisha yao wanayachezea kwenye viwanja vya wenzao wanaokutana nao katika vijiwe na sehemu za kazi.
Usikivu wa mazungumzo toka kwa wanaume wengine wenye uwezo wa kwenda mara nne hadi saba katika tendo au wanatumia dakika arobaini kufika kileleni umewafanya wanaume wengi kujihisi tu kuwa wao wanakasoro eti kwa kuwa huishia mara mbili au moja katika kufanya tendo.
Dhana ya kujiona ni mwenye kasoro inapojengeka akilini mwa mwanaume, huchipua hofu na hatimaye kumfanya ashindwe kabisa kusisimka anapofikiria au kukutana na mwanamke. Matokeo ya hangaiko la akili hushusha uwezo wa mwili na kumuongoza mtu kwenye kuwaza ugonjwa kisha kukimbilia hospitali au kwa waganga kutafuta tiba ya ugongwa ambao kimsingi hanao.
Lakini ukweli uko wazi kwamba kukimbilia kutafuta uwezo wa kufanya mapenzi mara sita au saba hakumfanyi mwanaume awe mlinganifu mwenye kusifiwa na wanawake wengi, kwani si wanawake wote wana uwezo wa kufanya mapezi kwa raundi hizo na si wote wanapenda kutumia takika 30 kucheza mpira wa kikubwa, wengine hukinai mapema na huona kero kuwa na wanaume ving’ang’anizi wenye sifa za kuganda wanapopewa.
Kwa kufahamu haya utagundua kuwa kukimbilia kutafuta tiba ya kumudu kwenda mara saba ni jitihada mfu kabisa zisizohitajika katika maisha ya mwanaume hasa ukizingatia kwamba wenye uwezo wa kufanya mapenzi mara nyingi hawakuzaliwa hivyo, bali walijizoeza kupitia mazingira ya malezi na makuzi yao. Maana hawezi kuwa mzoefu wa raundi mvulana aliyelelewa katika mafundisho ya kukatazwa ngono na kulindwa hadi akakakua.
Kadhalika hawi hodari wa kimapenzi msichana aliyefundishwa kujitunza, yote yatakayofuata kwa mvulana au msichana humea baada ya kupandwa na tabia chipukizi za ukubwani. Kwa msingi huo mwanaume anajukumu la kuutengeneza mwili wake uwe katika staili aitakayo. Ndiyo maana kuna wengine hawamudu kulala bila kufanya ngono, hii ikiwa na maana kuwa wamejizoeza tu, si kwamba wameumbwa na nguvu hizo.
Labda ili kufikia kilele cha somo hili ni vema tukalejea matatizo matatu niliyosema hapo juu ili tujue ni jinsi gani tunaweza kuepukana nayo bila hata kumeza vidonge na tukawa wanaume wa mbegu kama wengi wenu mjuavyo.
Kwa kuanza tuzungumzie Kukosa msisimko. Hapa tunatakiwa kuajitambua sisi wenyewe kwanza, tukijua historia na mazingira yetu ya kimapenzi.
Kwa wanaume ambao wamebanwa sana kikazi na hufanya mapenzi mara moja moja, hukabiliwa na tatizo la kukosa msisimko kwa sababu miili yao imezoea. Sasa ili kuifanya ichangamke lazima waanze kuirejesha kwa kufanya mapenzi mara kwa mara na kwa raundi chache. Kisha wanatakiwa kufanya mazoezi na kula vyakula, vinywaji vyenye nguvu ili kujipa nguvu.
Pia kama mwanaume ameishi na mwanawake kwa muda mrefu na amekuwa na desturi ya kufanya mepenzi mara kwa mara katika mazingira yale yale anaweza kukumbwa na kasoro hiyo. Hivyo anashauriwa kubadili mazingira ya kufanyia mapenzi, kupeana mahaba mapya, kuamsha mapenzi kwa kujaliana, pia kuondoa fikra zote zenye kukinaisha ikiwa sambamba na kuzingatia usafi wa mwili. Yakifanyika hayo mwili utaitikia taarifa ya akili na nguvu zitapatikana.
Kwa wanaoshindwa kurudia tendo wanatakiwa kufuata kanuni hizo hapo juu. Jambo kubwa ni suala la kuuzoeza mwili. Usiulazimishe kuanza mara moja kwenda mara nyingi wakati mapenzi yako yamekuwa ya kuiba mpaka baba alale na wakati mwingine muda wako wa kutoka kazini umebana na hivyo kukufanya ufanye mapenzi ya chap chap kila siku. Ukiwa mtu wa namna hii haiwezi ikatoke siku moja ghafla tu ukafanya mpenzi mara tatu bila kuchoka.
Pia inawezekana mwanaume akashindwa kurudia tendo si kwa sababu hana nguvu bali hapewi ushirikiano wa kutosha toka kwa mpenzi wake. Hivyo wakati wa kutafuta uwezo wa kwenda raundi nyingi ni vema usaidizi wa mwanamke ukatolewa, isitokee kupokea lawama tu za “huwezi, sijatosheka” kwani hizo ndizo zinazowafanya wanaume washindwe kabisa kwa hofu kuwa wanaaibika. Mawazo ya kuaibika yanapopewa kipaumbele huufanya uume kuzidi kusinyaa, kwa maana hiyo ni vema kuyatupilia mbali na kuacha kujihukumu.
Pia kuna hitilafu ya wakati wa kuridhishana, inaweza kutokea mwanamke akawa kamaliza raundi yake ya kwanza, wakati anaingia msisimko wa pili mwanaume anafika kileleni, kinachotokea ni mwanamke kumlazimisha mwanaume arudie tendo kwa muda mfupi tangu amalize, jambo ambalo ni vigumu. Sasa ikitokea mwanaume kachezewa na hana msisimko anapata hofu kuwa haweze, ikijengeka hivyo hata iweje jambo halitawezekana tena. Hivyo ni bora kupeana muda wa kupumzika kabla ya hatua ya pili ya mchezo.
Pale inapotokea hamasa ya kurudia haipo fikra za mwanaume zisipewe nafasi ya kushindwa kwani nyakati, mchoko, makujukumu, hofu za maisha na mambo kama hayo yanapokuja katika siku ya kustarehe ni wazi kuwa kiwango cha ufanyaji mapenzi kitakuwa chini na hali hii huwatokea wanaume wote, hata walio hodari wa kwenda raundi kumi kwa siku.
Sambamba na hilo wanawake wanashauriwa kutoonesha kujali pindi inapotokea hali hiyo, badala yake wawaambie wenzao kuwa siku hiyo inatosha hata kama hawajatosheka, lengo ni kuondoa hofu ambayo ndiyo msingi wa wanaume kuishiwa uwezo wa kufanya mapenzi. Hata hivyo maudhi, kufanya mapenzi na usiyempenda, msongo wa mawazo na kutokuaminiana huchangia kupoteza msisimko wa kuwa ‘kidume’.
Ushauri wangu ni kwamba chochote ambacho unataka mwili wako ukifanye lazima uuzoeze. Ukizoea kuamka saa 12 asubuhi mwili utatii kanuni hiyo. Na ukizoea kufanya mapenzi kila siku mara mbili au tatu hali itakuwa hivyo. Mwisho katika sura hii ni vema wanaume na wanawake wakajifahamu kuwa uwezo wa kufanya mapenzi unapungua kufuatana na umri isitokee mtu akakosa raha kisa hawezi kwenda mara nyingi kama zamani wakati anajua kabisa umri wake umekuwa mkubwa.
Jamani kutafuta nguvu za ujana zirudie uzeeni ni kujipa taabu ya bure. Ukiona umeingia kwenye utu uzima na mwili wako unaishiwa uwezo, kubaliana na hali. Lakini jambo la kushangaza siku hizi hata vikongwe wanapanga foleni kwa waganga kutafuta tiba ya kufanya mapenzi mara tatu kwa siku! Mapenzi yanataka uwezo wa akili na mwili tusishindane na uwezo asili tutapoteza muda na pesa bure.
Tatizo la mwisho ambalo nalo linatajwa kuwasumbua zaidi wanaume ni maumbile madogo ya uume. Wanaume wengi wamekuwa wakilalamika kuwa maumbile yao yanawazuia kuwapa dozi wapenzi wao. Lakini kama nilivyosema huko nyuma kwamba mapenzi hayana kanuni kwamba lazima mtu awe hivi ili amtosheleze mwenzake. Kinacholeta raha katika mapenzi ni hisia, hii ikiwa na maana kwamba mwanaume au mwanamke anaweza kufurahia mapenzi kwa kutomasana na kuhamasishana kwa viungo vingine vya mwili na kujikuta wameridhika hata bila ya kuingiliana.
Kwa maana hiyo wale ambao wanamaumbile madogo wanaweza kutafuta wanawake ambao nao wanamaumbile ya aina yao. Baadhi ya watalaam wanasema kwamba kwa kawaida umbile la nyeti za mtu linakwenda sambamba na urefu wa mwili wake. Kwa maana hiyo wanawake wafupi, ingawa si wote wanatajwa kuwa na nyeti zenye ukomo mfupi zaidi ya warefu na wembamba wa umbo.
Mbali na chaguo la mtu mwenye kuendena naye umbo, wanaume wenye kasoro hii wanatakiwa kujifunza sana michezo ya kimapenzi ambayo itawasaidia kuwafikisha kileleni wapenzi wao. Ni muhimu kwao kutumia sanaa na mitindo inayopunguza umbali na ukomo wa nyeti za kike.
Mwisho ni misingi ya tiba hii:
MOJA ni kuepuka hofu. Ikitokea siku moja umeshindwa katika tendo haina maana una kasoro, bali ni hali ya kawaida, hivyo usiingize huzuni na hofu utakuza tatizo. Hivyo kwa wale wenye tatizo hili wapunguze wasiwasi na wajiamini kuwa hawana tatizo.
PILI, nguvu za kiume zinahitaji mwili wenye nguvu, hivyo ni busara kula lishe bora na kufanya mazoezi yasiyokuwa makali sana.
TATU, kumfundisha mwanamke namna ya kukusisimua.
NNE, kuepuka mawazo ya kuhuzunisha wakati wa tendo.
TANO, kupata muda wa kupumzisha mwili.
SITA, kuepukana na pupa, tumia muda usiopungua takika 20 kufanya romance.
Emucheki dent alivyochoka Hata ubaridi ausikii kuwa unapuliza nyeti zake .
Du hii inatisha shana mfumo wa elimu yetu inabidi ubadirishwe ili kupunguza hii hali.
Achana nah ii juzi nilikuwa Mzumbe morogoro nilipishana na mwanafunzi mmoja wakike aliyevalia gauni lake mwenye vizuri cha ajabu inaonekana alitoka canteen kupata maakul sasa gauni hilo lilibanwa nah an bag haani utamu wote nje lakini yeye mwenyewe wala atitabui mpaka msamalia mmoja alipo mshitua
Yote haya ni kuhusiana na mfumo wetu wa elimu yaanii mtu akifikira sap au kudisco
waNa vyooni wanadata
Tabia ya kujichua au kupiga punyeto ni kitu kilichozoeleka miongoni mwa vijana wengi kuanzia umri wa balehe ni hali ambayo imekuwa ya kawaida miongoni mwao. Hali hiyo siyo tu hutokea kwa vijana bali hata kwa watu wazima. Watu wanaofanya hivi hufanya kwa lengo la kujitosheleza wenyewe kimapenzi (self satisfaction). Watu hufanya kitendo hiki kwa malengo mbalimbali hasa wengi husema kwa lengo la kujiepusha na ngono, lakini je ni njia sahihi ya kuepusha ngono? Hili swali ambalo itabidi ujijibu mwenyewe baada ya kupata maelekezo yakina katika safu hii.
Zipo njia mbalimbali zinazotumika kujichua. Kwa mujibu wa utafiti wa hapa na pale, watu au wanaume wanaojichua hutumia sabuni, mafuta, wengine hujisugua sugua uume wanapokuwa wamelala lakini suala zima hapa ni kusugua uume kwa nguvu nakuvuta hisia na kuweka taswira ya kimapenzi ili kufikisha malengo yako.
Wapo watu wanaotumia midoli au vifaa maalum kwa shughuli hii, kwahiyo yapo makampuni katika baadhi ya nchi yanayotengeneza vifaa ambavyo hutumika kujichua au kupiga punyeto. Vifaa hivi ni uke uliotengenezwa bandia katika umbile la viungo vya siri ya mwanamke, ambavyo hutumiwa na mwanaume, vilevile vipo viungo vya kiume yaani uume bandia ambao hutumiaka na wanawake.
Wakati mtu anapojichua hasa mwanaume, huvuta hisia na kutumia nguvu nyingi kusugua kichwa cha uume bila yeye mwenyewe kujijua. Kusugua kwa nguvu ndipo kunapoleta msisimko katika ubongo na kusababisha uume usimame na hisia zikiwa kali ndipo unkapofikia kilele. Hisia uvutwa kwa kufikiria taswira ya mwanamke yeyote na kuiweka karibu. Uume utasimama hadi kufikia kiwango cha juu na ndipo utakapoanza kutoa manii.
Hali hii ndiyo ilivyo hata kwa mwanamke. Watu wengine hasa kuvuta hisia inakuwa ngumu hiyvo hulazimika kuangalia picha za ngono au majarida ya ngono ndipo waweze kufanikisha malengo haya tofauti na kufanya ngono ya kawaida, kujichua kutumia nguvu nyingi katika kuvuta hisia za kimapenzi na kuhitaji uume usimame na ufikie kileleni. Hapa kila kitu ni cha kulazymisha, hata mfumo wa homoni unakuwa haupo tayari.
JINSI UUME UNAVYOSIMAMA
Katika hali yakawaida inayompelekea mwanaume afanye tendo la ndoa, kwanza kunakuwa na uamsho wa kawaida wa kimapenzi baada ya kumuona mwanamke, kisha mwili unajiandaa (Homornal changes). Mishipa ya damu mwilini inafunguka (vascular dilatations) yaani mishipa ya mwili mzima na ndiyo maana unapata msisimko, baada ya mishipa kufanguka au kutanuka, damu yote huishia chini kwa kasi na kwenda kujaa katika uume kwenye sehemu iitwayo ‘Urethral bulb’.
Damu inapojaa hapo ndipo inaposababisha uume usimame. Uume unasimama na kuendelea ambapo mzunguko wa damu hapo unakuwa mkubwa, damu inaenda na kurudi hadi tendo limapofikia katika kilele ambapo mishipa ya damu mwilini inapobana (vascular constriction) na damu kurudi katika hali ya kawaida na uume unalala. Kemikali inayosaidia zaidi hapa ni ile iitwayo ‘Nitric oxide’.vile vile majimaji (lubricant) au urethral mucus ambayo pamoja na kulainisha njia kwa ajili yakupitisha manii na uke ambapo hata mwanamke anapokuwa tayari kutoa .
MADHARA YA KUJICHUA
Tatizo hili ingawa hutumika kama njia ya kujizuia na tamaa ya ngono, kimsingi huwezi kufanya kitendo hiki bila kuzikaribisha tamaa hizi za ngono. Kwahiyo athari za tatizo hili tunaweza kuziweka katika makundi mawili, kwani athari za kisaikolojia na pili ni athari za kimwili.
Athari zakisaikolojia (Psychological effects) zinaanzia pale unapovuta hisia kazi za ngono. Bila kuwa na hisia kali huwezi kupata uamsho au ‘sexual avousal.’ Hisia kali ni za kulaizmisha kwahiyo zitakudumaza ambapo utashindwa msisimko wa kawaida hadi ufikiri sana.
Hali hii ikiendelea hata ukiwa na mwanamke utashindwa kusisimka haraka au utashindwa kubisha kufanya tendo kutokana na mgongano katika akili yako ambapo utajitahidi kuvuta hisia kali wakati mwanamke yupo hapo hapo karibu yako. Hapa ndipo utasikia mtu analalamika hapati hamu ya tendo la ndoa, akiwa na mwanamke uume huchelewa kusimama na hata ukisimama wakati wa tendo anawahi sana kumaliza na kushindwa kuendelea na tendo la pili.
Vilevile mtu wa aina hii huumwa na kichwa, kiuno na mgongo ingawa siyo mara kwa mara kwa wanawake wanaotumia viungo bandia vya uume nao huwa hawana hamu wala msisimko wowote wakiwa na wanaume.
Athari nyingine ni za kimwili (mechanical effects). Athari za kimwili ni maumivu ya uume kutokana na kusugua uume mara kwa mara, kulegea kwa misuli ya uume kutoana na kutumia nguvu kwa muda mrefu ili uweze kujitosheleza. Unaweza kupata michubuko katika uume au ndani ya njia ya mkojo. Unaweza kupata nagonjwa ya mishipa ya damu ya uume (microvascular effects) ambapo kutokana na kujisuguasugua mishipa inaweza kuziba hasa ile ya kurudisha damu nakufanya uume usimame bila kikomo kwa muda mrefu au usisimame kabisa.
Matatizo haya yote kwa pamoja husababisha upungufu mkubwa wa nguvu za kiume na kupoteza uwezo wa kufanya tendo la ndoa. Kwa ambao tayari wamekutwa na matatizo haya wataelewa vizuri. Hali hii ya kujichua hukufanya utumie hisia nyingi au nguvu nyingi na nishati nyingi kiasi cha nguvu zote zitumika kufikiri na kufanya kitendo.uelewe kwamba, ubongo unatumia asilimia 60 ya nishati yote mwilini na pia unapokojoa au kufikia mshindo mmoja, nishati au nguvu unaozotumia ni sawa sawa na mtu aliiyetembea kwa mguu umbali wa kilometa 15.
Kwa hiyo basi, kama wewe ni mwanafunzi na unaendekeza punyeto, ubongo wako utakuwa unachoka kila wakati kiasi kwamba utakuwa msahaurifu darasani, unakuwa unapoteza poteza kumbukumbu, mwili utakuwa mchovu na kila wakati utakuwa unasinzia daima hasa afya yako haitakuwa nzuri utakuwa mchovu daima.
Zipo njia nyingi za kuepuka tamaa za ngono siyo lazima ujichue au upige punyeto au ufanye masturbation (mastabesheni). Kitendo cha kujichua kinaashiria unaendekeza tamaa za ngono. Epuka vishawishi vya ngono kwa kutokusikiliza au kangalia vitendo hivyo kwa nia yoyote. Njia mojawapo ya kuepuka ngono au tamaa ya kujichua ni kushiriki mazoezi ya viungo na michezo ya kutumia akili kama draft, kuangalia michezo na kufanya miadala ya kielimu, vilevile kushiriki kikamilifu katika michezo.